I have one last policy paper to hand in and I am finished. I will still have another year of practicum and of course, my thesis. But I will not need to attend classes and subject myself to exposures that leave me incapacitated for days. There was a 9 month stretch last year, where I didn't have any in-person classes at all and my health improved tremendously. I have a great deal of hope about getting back to that place.
School was a good alternative to working, because I simply wasn't able to continue at my job after I acquired ES/MCS. It was impossible. Even with the various accommodations that I negotiated at work, it wasn't possible for me to continue to be employed. School allowed for flexibility in my schedule that made it possible for me to heal and recover. I was able to utilize telecommunications and Skype to attend lectures when I was unable to function. Once I was able to get a diagnosis (a year into my program) my accommodations increased tremendously, for example, air purifiers to my specifications were purchased for use in my classrooms. Diagnosis also made it possible to access a treatment protocol and I had a better sense of what was happening with my health. Eighteen months is a long time to be really really sick and have no idea why it is happening or how to get it under control.
In retrospect, being in grad school was the best option for me through my illness. The stakes are just not that high in grad school. Worst case scenario, you get a bad mark or have to rewrite a paper. In all of the jobs that I have ever had, the stakes have always been very high. I was employed in the field of social work for 12 years before going back to school. I was doing direct service/front line work and that is simply not an option for me anymore. Returning to school offered me the opportunity to develop new skills, update my theoretical knowledge base, and have a recovery-based educational sabbatical. I was not only exhausted and burnt out from my years of front line work, I was also profoundly sick and disabled by the neuro-immune symptoms of ES/MCS. My life, seemingly overnight, became very very small.
There has been a great deal of uncertainty for me in recent years as I move through my recovery. I am used to dreaming really big and working really hard and making things happen. I am used to being able to make a good salary and feeling independent. Managing expectations has been an important part of recovery for me, because the reality is that I am not the person that I was and my life has been altered in massive and significant ways. Finishing school and moving into the next stage of my life feels very uncertain for me, but I am better positioned with a fresh Masters of Social Work degree than I was with a 12 year old Honours degree in Psychology and Religion.
I am going to miss the classroom and the insights that I have gained. I am going to miss the conversations and social aspects of being with others who share my perspective. I am going to miss the Professors who inspired me and believed in me and encouraged me to stick with it when everything inside of me was begging me to just stay in bed and fade away. This illness has been very isolating for me. It has been a struggle to keep up with my readings and writing my papers when my brain function comes and goes like the wind and I have to spend days on end in the dark.
It is sort of a miracle that I made it through the coursework at all! Oy! I don't want to jinx myself - I do have one policy paper left and 200 hours of practicum AND MY THESIS left to do. I guess I shouldn't be too quick to attribute my success to a 'miracle'.
What is left for me to complete can all be completed from home, with the exception of some focus groups that I will be holding as part of my thesis research. I will not have to attend campus with any regularity and that is a huge relief for me. It will make it a lot easier to manage my life and my health. When I have a term with a class, I can't do anything outside of going to class. This results in four months of being homebound, having very minimal visitors, spending many days and nights incapacitated, and struggling to complete my readings, do my research and write my papers.
Nothing about going to the school has been easy. I had to negotiate a disability identity in order to access the accommodations that I required. This was a very confusing experience for me and I didn't always feel comfortable identifying as disabled, and yet, if I didn't I couldn't get the accessible learning and accommodations that I required in order to continue with my studies. In hindsight, I can say that perhaps grad school was also the best place to be negotiating a disability identity. I have had to negotiate many marginalized identities throughout my life and adding one more to the long list has not been easy. Social justice, critical and disability justice, transformative and environmental justice frameworks have really empowered me and provided me with theoretical tools to make sense of my experiences. School has been a relatively 'safe' place for me develop knowledge, practice skills, and expertise, while I recover from ES/MCS.
I have worked long enough in my life to know that grad school is not anything like the 'real world'. Not in any way. I recognize the privileged position of being a student and a researcher within an academic institution. As I move closer to the end of my program, my uncertainty about the future becomes increasingly salient. It took me five terms to figure out how to use my privilege as a student and how to be successful as a student and now it is all coming to an end. Out in the 'real world' my marginalized identities will be much harder to negotiate. I know this very well. I have no illusions about higher education.
Did I mention I was having mixed feelings?
Life as a student has become a sort of manageable way to live. I have a lot of access and equity support, and accommodations. I have been able to do research that interests me and is relevant to my life and my communities. I have been able to establish myself as an expert among academics and educate others about ES/MCS. School has helped me feel validated in my identities, even my marginalized ones.
I have to be perfectly honest and say that I have no idea what comes next. But I do know that it will not involve working inside of an hermetically sealed building with poor air quality and circulation.
And that is a reason to smile :)
